MAN UP!!!

Sooooooo this blog has been boiling up inside of me for sometime now and Im like a valcano ready to erupt....(cracks knuckles, takes sip of Sam Adams, #LEGGO)!  Im writing this blog as a call to action of sorts, or better yet a reality check for all men!

I preface what I am about to say by admitting first and foremost that I am not immune to this blog.  I am still very much a work in progress and in the middle of a growth transformation from boy to man, but what I can tell you is that everyday I strive to be a better man than I was yesterday.  I try to be an example in every way possible and embrace a high level of accountability for my actions and for my future.  With that being said, yes sometimes I fall off the wagon, but see this blog isnt for that type of man. This blog is targeted to the excuse making, messed up priority having, lack of work ethic, wanna be men, but behave like boys men.  This is for the men who have decided that a deep voice, testosterone, and penis are what define them as men.

First and foremost the first man I want to tell to MAN UP is what we all call the "DEAD BEAT DAD!"  I mention this first b/c my #1 pet peeve in life is a "DEAD BEAT DAD!"  If you ask me the moment you became a dead beat dad was the moment you turned in your man card.  The minute that you decided that you could bring another life in the world and completely turn your back on him/her was the minute I lost all respect for you.  The reason I feel so strongly about this is because I truly and honestly believe that the foundation for raising any family comes from strong male leadership and when you volunteer to take yourself out of that equation you immediately establish yourself as selfish. I believe that selfishness is what boys possess while selflessness is what real men posess.  I know I can hear all you men moaning and groaning feeling "attacked" once again.  The funny thing about that though is that the real men that are accountable to their families and their kids are the ones who wont get offended.  Its the ones who use every excuse in the world to not "be there" are the ones complaining.  The ones who have every babymama, job, lack of money, and lack of a their own father excuse that are probably hitting the exit button right now.  I dont know a whole lot about fatherhood, but what I do know is that for the majority of kids and families half of the battle for you as a man is to just BE THERE! All Im saying men is just show up! Ladies I know its more to it then that, but for the sake of this blog all I am asking the men to do is SHOW UP!!!!!

The second type of man I want to tell to MAN UP is the man out there that have a  disease called LACK OF AMBITION!  This ish seems to be an epidemic or something.  My question to this man is; how do you sleep well at night knowing that you spend each and every day doing absolutely NOTHING! When the hell did it become okay for men to sleep till 1:00, play video games all day, get high or drunk, and then go to sleep and wake up and do it all over again.  Furthermore when did women start excepting this and start taking care of these clowns (I digress b/c thats a whole nother blog).  Okay so men if you are not working towards something for yourself, or working towards making life better for your family and building a legacy then where the hell does your self-worth come from? The thing I ask these men is when you leave this earth have you stopped for one minute and asked yourself  "what will I be remembered for?" If you havent asked yourself that question do me a favor  and DO IT!  How do you expect your offspring to believe that they can be successful and accomplish anything when their daddy (their most importan example) hasn't figured out how to get up off the couch! Look Im not saying every man is meant to be rich or wealthy, but what I am saying is that there is absolutely no excuse for having a LACK OF AMBITION!!

The third and final man I want to tell to MAN UP is the one that many call the WOMANIZER! Ok ok ok trust me fellas I get it.  I haven't been an angel all my life, Ive played the game and the game has played me so I dont want any of you to think that Im just "hating (everybody's favorite word these days...bruh Im not hating Im just expressing an opinion so get over urself! I can't hate on the people I want to be nothing like).  All of the men out here who believe that their manhood is defined by the number of women who you put your penis in do me a favor and MAN UP!  Look I know how it is when you wit cha boys reminiscing on all the women you "conquered." You know how that conversation goes "yea man remember so and so....yeah she was fine man...yeah I used to hit that back in the day!"....LOL all the real fellas know they have had that convo before.  Okay my response to that these days is SO WHAT! There has to come a point in your life where you move beyond the shallow sex talk and dive into the depths of true companionship and love.  You have to get pass the stage where your "penis points," are the the thing that defines who you are as man.  Remember the question I asked before...when you are gone do you want people to remember you for the type of father you were, how successful you were in your career, how impactful you were in your community, and how great of an example you were...or do you want to be remembered for how many "penis points," you earned.  All Im saying bro is that Medicare aged playas is not whats up! My point is that I believe that there is far more value in making a woman your wife and building something deeper for the sake of the future and your legacy than there is in seeing how many women you can conquer.  I like to say that a million shallow relationships will never equal to one deep one. 

Okay I know yall think my blogs are getting longer and longer, but thats only because when I feel compelled enough to write I want to make sure I address all that I sought to address.  The bottom line is that I want to SALUTE all of the men who are out there holding it down and striving to be the best they can be for themselves and for their families.  This point of this blog wasn't to bash men, the point was to challenge all of us as men to want to be better. The point was to let all of you know that I know you have potential to be what God created us to be if we just take a moment to look in the mirror and MAN UP!!

P.S. Oh ladies have fun reading this one b/c please believe yall are up next!!

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